Forgiveness Is the Word
CBS Sunday morning is one of my favorite TV
programs. Ben Stein had a segment recently on his mission for
the New Year which is “forgiveness.” His work for the New Year
is to forgive anyone and everyone who has committed a real,
perceived, or even imagined transgression against him. This
started me thinking about people that I needed to forgive –
actually it is only one person. And I am working hard on that
However, sometimes the person we need
most to forgive is ourselves. Most of us come from a background
of low self-esteem. We have been told by those close to us, and
by society, that we are ugly and a failure, perhaps not in words,
but in attitudes. After years of this message, we believe it.
After surgery, we may find that we have not
reached our goal weight. It seems like we are never happy with
our weight. We are never slim enough, or we hate our hanging
skin. Perhaps we have started to regain, and are having self
control issues. Those old food demons reappear, and we hate
ourselves for not being able to control them.
This is the time that we have to forgive
ourselves for being human. We have to forgive ourselves, and
appreciate all the wonderful things about ourselves that don’t
involve weight. We are so much more than the number on the
Forgive and appreciate. Let those be the
themes for the year.
Happy New Year
Are you among the half of the population
that has made a New Year’s resolution? I hope so. Even though half of
those who make resolutions don’t follow them beyond six months, just
the act of concentrating on a resolution gives you a much better
chance of reaching your goal. But there are certain things that you
can do to improve your chances of success.
1. Put a lot of thought into your
resolution. What is it you want to achieve? Be very specific to the point
that you can clearly picture the end result.
2. Make sure that your resolution
is achievable. Is this something that you tried before and didn’t even
get close to achieving?
3. Be prepared. If your resolution
is to lose a certain amount of weight, make sure that you have gotten
rid of all of the holiday junk food, and that your refrigerator is
stocked with healthy food. Have you taken exercise into consideration?
How and when will you do it?
4. Have just one resolution so that you
can easily focus your energy in one direction.
5. Take baby steps to your goal. For
example, if your goal is to exercise more and you are not exercising
at all right now, have your resolution that you will exercise 5
minutes every day. That doesn’t sound like much, but it is a time
commitment that you can easily make. It is also a physical level that
you can sustain. When you are comfortable with 5 minutes and have
done that for at least a week or two, then increase the time and
perhaps the intensity a little. It is the lack of baby steps that
causes people to abandon their New Year’s resolutions in a hurry.
Don’t set yourself up for failure.
Follow these steps and you will have a much better chance of ending
the year as a New Year’s success story.
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Baby Aspirin: Is It Worth It?
Please answer this question for me. I am five years post-op, and with
all the positive news about taking baby aspirin once a day to prevent
heart attacks, I am wondering if we can take a baby aspirin a day? I
know that Motrin or similar over-the-counter NSAIDS are not allowed, but
my friends and I are arguing about baby aspirin. Can you solve the
A daily dose of baby aspirin has been shown to lower the risk of heart
attack and stroke, but even for those who have not had weight loss
surgery, this therapy is not for everyone according to the Mayo Clinic
Aspirin works to prevent blood from clotting. Blood clots can break
loose and travel to the arteries which supply blood to the heart or
brain. The lack of a blood supply to the heart results in a heart
attack. The lack of blood to the brain results in a stroke.
When considering whether to take baby aspirin or not you should keep
in mind the operative word here, which is “aspirin,” baby or not, which
carries with it a high risk of bleeding, and an even higher risk for
those who have had gastric bypass surgery. Just because it is an aspirin
designed for babies, it is for the occasional use of babies. It is when
the use becomes daily that the risk of bleeding is real.
The decision to take daily doses of baby aspirin is something you
should discuss with your bariatric surgeon or family doctor, if your
family doctor is familiar with weight loss surgery. Even with baby
aspirin, there are many things to take into consideration to assess if
the risk of bleeding is worth it:
* Have you had a heart attack or stroke?
* What is your risk of having a heart attack?
* Do you have a family history of heart disease?
* Do you smoke?
* How high is your blood pressure?
* What is your cholesterol level?
* Do you exercise?
* Do you have diabetes?
* Are you stressed?
* How much alcohol do you drink?
Your question sounds like it should have an easy answer, but
unfortunately it does not. Sorry I can’t solve the argument. There is
no one answer for everyone. Talk with your doctor.
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I want to offer a special thanks to
Glenda Hine for sharing her success with us.
Here is her story:
My story starts out
like almost all the others--overweight all my life and
miserable about it, but not able to do anything about it.
Oh, I could lose 100 pounds or more. I did it five times in
my life. I would start to look good and feel good, and then,
for some unknown reason, I would see the scales head upward
again. I could never explain why this would happen, not to
me, or to any of the people who would ask me why, after all
that hard work, how I could let myself gain it back.
weighed over 200 pounds in elementary school. By the time I
was a teenager, I was really a whopper. I took all the
teasing and name calling in stride, like we learn to do at
an early age. I can say it didn't really hurt that badly. I
just got tired of hearing it, but not tired enough to do
anything about it until I moved to Kansas from North
up my mind that I was going to be a different person when I
finally got to come home for the first time. I lost 111
pounds. I stayed in the gym, and worked out, and did all the
right things. When I got back to North Carolina, you can
imagine how good it felt when people saw me under 200
pounds. But you also know how bad it felt when the next time
they saw me, I was well on my way back to 300 pounds. Through
the years, I did the same thing four more times--always
gaining back more each time. Why??? If I could answer that
and bottle it, I would be a billionaire.
I was 57
years old when I finally decided to have gastric bypass
surgery. I had high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart
problems, and was just plain miserable all the time. My
insurance denied me the first time, but thank God I had good
people working for me, and it was finally approved. As you
know there are a lot of tests, dietician instructions, and
psychological exams that you must go through to have this
surgery. However, I was determined, and it finally happened
on July 22, 2009. I will never forget that date. It is the
day my life changed for the good.
fortunate to have a loving, caring husband who loved me when
I weighed 317 pounds even though I was miserable and
unhappy. During the majority of our 17 years together, I
was very heavy, but I can say he was never ashamed of me,
and was always glad to introduce me as his wife. But now
there is pride in his eyes, and he brags about me all the
time. That alone is worth the journey.
together has never been as good as it is now. I had always
been the adventuresome type, but was too big to do anything
but sit in the recliner and eat. Now we are zip
lining, white water rafting, and horseback riding. Now that
I have lost 171 pounds it is as if I am finally living my
life. It is good to be 146 pounds and in sizes 6 and 8 instead of 26 and
worried that I will gain it back again like some other
weight loss surgery patients?
Heck, yes I am, and probably will be every day of my life.
I try my best to get my walking in every day, and do all the
other things I am supposed to do, but it is constantly in
the back of my mind. And maybe that is a good thing. I have
a constant reminder that I have to watch my eating and
exercising for the rest of my life. I do not want to go
back to that miserable overweight person again. I am
enjoying the new me too much!!!
I love good news. If you have good news, a
success story to share, or inspiration, please send it to me at
Barbara@wlscenter.com so that I can include it in future issues.
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