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I want to offer Peg Bradtke a special thanks
for sharing her success with us. Here is her story:
I have every intention of writing my “success
story” and in fact, I’m really looking forward to it. When I finally
get to write it I will be at the end of my journey to weight loss and
maintenance mastery. I can’t wait!
Somehow I just always thought that I would
“become”. Become a woman who loved to exercise, become someone who ate
just the things that she was supposed to, become a person who always
enjoyed three meals a day with those wonderful protein snacks in
between. I’m just not there even though I’m patiently waiting for that
day to arrive, the day I “become.”
I am by no means at the end of my weight loss and
maintenance journey. I am a work in progress and realize now that this
is what I may always be. So today I will write my story and my
“success” will be defined by where I am and I will celebrate my health
and improvement and my acceptance that I am a work in progress.
At an all time high weight of 265 my family
physician encouraged me to consider weight loss surgery. I was 50 and
had high cholesterol, sore knees and chronic nerve pain due to breast
cancer treatment 15 years prior. I have always appreciated my
physician’s frank attitude about my weight and his persistent
encouragement. It may have been this quote (though I’m still not sure
if he exaggerated), “The statistics for maintenance of weight
loss from any given diet program remains ZERO percentile for those who
have battled obesity throughout their lives.” WOW! If the data didn’t
alarm me, he suggested as I was leaving his office, “Peg, I think that
you still believe that weight loss is a mind over matter issue - I do
not.” I realized that day and have been reminded since that “we” come
in all shapes and sizes and “we” share a set of beliefs, experiences
and challenges. “We” are the ones who have battled weight most of our
lives.
These matter-of-fact and compassionate statements
prompted me to return to his office two weeks later, ready to pursue
steps toward a more aggressive solution to better health. I did lots
of preparatory reading and conferring with friends and family. I
received a lot of trust and support, but the most notable response
came from my teenager who said he was really glad that I was going to
have surgery because he feared that if I didn’t I would die sooner.
Perhaps it would be selfish not to take this aggressive step.
I got medical and insurance approval relatively
easily though I was surprised when the assessing psychologist
requested a few additional visits. She said that I scored “moderate”
in the area of needing to be in control. She warned that those of us
having that personality trait sometimes struggle post- surgically when
we are likely to be quite vulnerable. When I mentioned to my husband
and my best friend that I was apparently moderately controlling they
had the identical response; “Only moderately?” I worked a brief
course of therapy acknowledging a few minor revelations concerning my
compulsive eating. I found the self examination process uncomfortable
but helpful and chose to follow up post surgically as well.
I lost about 17 pounds prior to surgery,
triumphantly coming in just under that place where the nurse must
slide the big weight over a notch on the doctors balance scale. I had
laprascopic RN-Y on June 15, 2007. I felt uncomfortable after surgery
for a couple weeks. I did get dehydrated which seemed to escalate some
of the side pain. Looking back, all of the post surgical and initial
eating adjustment was challenging but very doable and relatively brief
in the calendar of my journey.
My husband was and always has been very
supportive and helped me with the three little pureed meals and the
protein drinks in between. I was able to eat remarkably little at one
time but that was OK because I could eat those tiny meals of less than
100 calories 6-8 times a day and still be taking in relatively few
calories a day with my protein drinks. I did this up until Christmas
of 2007. I was down to about 180 lbs. by then. I was doing so well in
fact that I was asked by the dietician and surgery staff to be
featured in an article for a magazine regarding my surgery and weight
loss experience. I gladly agreed, even though I knew I was only in the
middle of my journey to mastering weight loss and maintenance. It was
a nice article but removed any privacy I might have considered about
this matter.
Over that holiday, I discovered that I was one of
the 20% of post surgery patients who have no problem eating sweets.
Sweets have always been my biggest challenge and apparently will
remain so. My weight loss slowed significantly that January, has
remained slow and I have had several periods of staying the same for a
couple of months. Staying the same for a period of time is a new
experience for me and it gives my body a chance to tighten up. So
that’s cool. Now it is the end of October, 2008, 16+ months since my
surgery and I have lost over 100 pounds.
I want to lose another 25 pounds. I look pretty
good in clothes, I feel more active, no high cholesterol, knees are
much improved. My chronic pain is still there, and it is a bit harder
to manage as medications react differently to my new gastro-
intestinal construction. Everyone says I look great; I don’t feel
like I have shocking reactions from people. Nor have I had the big
personal adjustments some surgery patients describe. I am a smaller,
healthier, version of myself.
I do some walking, much more exercise than I did
before but I have not embraced that “daily-for-life” concept. I like
that I no longer create a dam behind me in the bath tub, I get to
tighten the airplane seat belt, I’m not afraid to ride a bike, or be
the last one to squeeze onto an elevator. I look down at my lap,
however, and it seems to look about like it always did. Catching a
glimpse of myself buff in the mirror still only happens accidentally
and definitely does not make my day.
I am thankful every day, to have the blessing of
not wanting to overeat. The volume I consume is now closer to 250
calories at a time so eating 6-8 times a day is not advised. Yet, I’m
able to sample everything. I enjoy movement, I buy clothes off the
rack in regular sizes, and my family is less concerned about my
health. I have so much to celebrate and an active life to look forward
to. I am a work in progress, feeling and looking better than I did 16
months ago. The “head stuff,” the mental part of the journey remains a
challenge. Surgery has provided a wonderful tool that helps me to deal
with the physical part of eating. I’m glad each day to have that tool
and always aware that there are behaviors I need to keep working on.
Maybe someday I will write again and feel
comfortable calling it my “Success Story”. In the meantime I hope
your readers might benefit from and relate to this, my reality
journey.
Peg Bradtke
Fakenails@aol.com
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Congratulations
Peg |
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