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I want to offer Brenda Butler a special thanks
for sharing her story with us:
My name is Brenda Butler and I live in Central
Pennsylvania. My story of obesity began at a very young age. I was
overweight my entire life - from age 2 or 3 until the time of my
surgery at age 37.
I have many family members who also struggle with
weight issues, so I suppose some of my weight problem can be
attributed to genetics, although I certainly do not deceive myself by
placing all the blame there. I grew up not being taught healthy eating
habits in a family of traditional meals of meat and potatoes. My
mother is an excellent cook and bakes fantastic desserts, all of which
I grew very addicted to over the years.
Unfortunately, I was also blessed with a
not-so-great metabolism accompanied with the fact that I had no
ambition to exercise, and that landed me at my highest weight ever -
301 pounds at the age of 32. The day I stepped on the scale and saw
the 300+ pounds reading was the day I knew I had to do something about
my weight. I knew I had to do it fast so I could live to see my
children grow up.
It was at this point in my life that I started
exploring the options of weight loss surgery. I began to research the
subject online and even attended a support group meeting at a hospital
not far from my home. My partner at the time was not eagerly
supportive of the surgery and did not think I was "heavy enough" to
warrant me having the surgery. My boys (ages 8 and 14 then) were not
supportive either, due to their fears of the risks involved. I
decided to table the idea for the time being and make one last attempt
on my own to lose some weight the good old fashion way - with diet and
exercise! I was also a single mother, and I was very apprehensive
about the idea of who would raise my boys if something happened to me
during surgery.
In January of 2003 I joined TOPS, a weight loss
support group as one last attempt to lose weight with diet and
exercise. Over a span of 6 months, I lost about 60 pounds. I went on
vacation that summer and gained a few of those back. I returned to my
program and lost 20 more for a total of 74 pounds lost. I maintained
my weight around 227 pounds for about 3 years. I was happy with this
loss; however, never satisfied with where my loss plateaued. I got
back into old habits and the pounds started to creep back on. This is
a familiar story to many of us, right?
In January of 2006, I had some major personal
life changes involving a new partner (my fiancé, Scott), who was
extremely supportive of weight loss surgery when I talked to him about
the subject. He also did not think I was heavy enough to need the
surgery, but completely understood my self-esteem issues, etc., and
realized the significant long-term health benefits that I would be
rewarded with down the road after having the surgery. He said he would
stand behind me 150% if weight loss surgery is what I wanted, so I
decided to move forward with my plans.
I went online again to further research my
options and found Barix Clinics, a facility that specializes only in
weight loss surgery. I called for a consultation and the rest, as
they say, is history! I found a phenomenal surgeon, Dr. Neal Marymor,
who had performed over 2500 open RNY bypass procedures. Although I
qualified for the laparoscopic procedure, I chose the open approach
because my surgeon was only practicing that method of surgery at the
time. Scott and I spent a great amount of time with Dr. Marymor
discussing all pros, cons, risks, benefits, etc.
My surgery was done in August of 2006, and Scott
never missed a single appointment throughout my weight loss surgery
journey. I would highly recommend to anyone considering the surgery
to have a support person who accompanies you to all of your
appointments, and have that same person be your aftercare helper when
you come home. That way, he/she will know all the aspects of your
surgery and what to expect before, during and after. Some support
sites call this person your "angel."
I celebrated my second year "surgiversary" this
past August! The time goes by so quickly! I was very fortunate to
reach my weight loss goal before my 1-year anniversary! My surgeon
was absolutely thrilled with my success. I am happy to say that I
surpassed my goal weight of 150 pounds, and I have maintained my
weight between 138 and 145 pounds. I allow myself those few pounds in
fluctuation and do not get excited unless I see the scale move above
the 145 pound mark, at which time I check myself back with reality and
drop the pounds immediately. (Thankfully, we are given this wonderful
tool that allows us to do this!) I will never allow myself to go back
where I came from – NEVER.
So, to put my surgical journey into perspective
now that I consider myself a success, that places my total weight loss
pre and post-surgery at about 160 pounds. Additionally, and more
importantly than any size or number on a scale is that my BMI has gone
from 50.1 to 23.8, or less than half!! Now, according to all
nationally recognized data and charts, I am in a normal weight
category for a decreased chance of health risks and diseases!! That
was my ultimate goal when I had this surgery two years ago – goal
accomplished!
I still sit some days and really wonder if this
is all a dream, after living my entire life as a morbidly obese person
and now to be a normal weight. It is very surreal to me, but I love
it!!!!! Two years later, I am still realizing that I can shop for
clothing in “normal” size stores!!
I continue to experience situations where I run
into an acquaintance I have not seen for awhile, and they do not know
who I am – yes, two years later, that is STILL happening!! Actually,
it's quite strange. However, a friend of mine from our high school
days had the same surgery, and I ran into her just a month or so ago
(she was about a year post-op). I almost did not recognize her, so I
can now understand why this happens to me so frequently!
I went parasailing last year at the beach to
celebrate my newfound freedom from 37 years of being stuck in a body
twice the size I should have been. I am terrified of heights and get
very motion sick, but my fiancé and I sailed tandem 600 feet over the
Atlantic Ocean, and it was an awesome "free" feeling!! This is
something I would never have imagined doing at 300+ pounds!
My fiancé and I are getting married on a Princess
Cruise ship at sea in February 2009. He loved me just at much when I
weighed 300 pounds as he does now when I weigh 140, but I will
hopefully live a much longer, active, healthier life with him now -
not to mention I'll get to wear my dream wedding gown to get married!!
Thank you for allowing me to share my story with
you. I will not kid you. This surgery has been a journey of both
highs and lows, but that is how all aspects of life are - you take the
good with the bad. I can tell you now looking back on it - it was
well worth the ride!!!
If you are interested in reading more in depth
about my surgical journey, we have a very in depth website with LOTS
of pictures at:
http://mysite.verizon.net/mustangmom69/index.htm
Sincerely,
Brenda Butler
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Brenda |
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